Is This Contentment or the Flu?

Simple buns and simple life.

I’ve said it before 48,573 times and I will say it again. Life after college is a hectic whirlwind. And most of your time is spent trying to decipher if you’re happy with who you are, what you’re doing and where you’re doing it all. Is this what I’m supposed to be doing? Does this make me happy? He loves me, he loves me not. Blah, blah, blah, blah. But what happens after that hump? How are you suppose to tell that you’ve finally reached that blissful element of contentment with your life?

I’m sorry if this is too deep for a Wednesday but I’m here to help because I have finally found an inner contentment in myself…nearly two years after graduation. Please don’t lose hope if you just graduated. It may not take that long for you to find inner quietness as it did me. Either way, it will come. And here’s how you will know…

1. Road rage will definitely be apparent (especially if you drive around hungry during rush hour), but it will be easily contained. A happy thought or a simple song will keep you semi-occupied during heavy traffic. Your mind will suddenly understand that a moment alone (even in traffic) isn’t really all bad. Side Note: I definitely still give angry glances during traffic, I’m not perfect.

2. Sleep is good, but my love/need for sleep isn’t as extreme as it was before. I used to sleep ALL THE TIME. Until the late hours of the morning. I would take frequent naps. I don’t know what it is now, but I pop up early feeling refreshed and eager to get things done. Side Note: I still sleep in, don’t get me wrong, but a sense of daily accomplishment is just as satisfying.

3. Let the pampering ensue. You will want to take care of yourself! I wasn’t a hoodlum before but I definitely was a lazy pile of sh*t sometimes, unable to find reasons to spend money on a new nail polish or face moisturizer. Now, I feel like I can treat myself. I deserve it. I deserve to spend five more dollars on a new toner or the fresh-squeezed orange juice instead of the Tropicana. Side Note: I still eat deep dish pizza on the couch and let my nails get a little stingy sometimes.

4. Dating becomes less needy. For the first time in a long time, I’m not chasing after anyone. No one is necessarily chasing after me. I’m not worried about a text/phone call and I don’t feel the tugging pressure to want any of it anyway. I’ve found contentment within myself, and amidst that inner satisfaction I don’t need someone to make it for me. Side Note: I’m not saying I like a little flirtatious bar banter from time to time.

5. Finally, self-apologies are minimal. When I STOP apologizing for something I’ve done day to day (that maybe made me feel a little off or “not myself”), I’m successful. No matter what, I never want to apologize for who I am, what I’ve learned, how I’ve learned and what I believe in. Because when I’m truly content with myself, I won’t be saying sorry about it.

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Categories: Life & Happiness

Author:bechaffee

University of Saint Thomas graduate. Minnesota-bred and happy to talk about the weather any time you’d like! Strongly believes any situation can be bettered by a slice of generously buttered toast or Phil Dunphy. Would get arrested to touch Justin Timberlake’s face. Always trying to be a better person by not wishing horrible karma on people driving slow in the fast lane. Hear more: @twitter @instagram

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